Some Bachelorette Talk

Since I've started blogging, I can honestly say that most times when I come here I feel like I'm walking into a room completely blind folded without even the tiniest glimpse of what direction I should be going in. While I know that my topics are endless, dedicating a full post to talk about The Bachelorette isn't something on a normal day that comes to mind. Sure, I could come up with a few blog post ideas based on the show, like "reasons why I would be a sucky bachelorette", or "I want to stab my eyes out but here's some reasons why I keep coming back for more", but as much as I love love love this show, nine point nine times out of ten, I won't be writing about it.

With all of that said, though, there are times when something as crazy as reality tv sparks something. Something that sticks with me, beyond all of the drama and romance, and leaves me thinking. Monday nights episode of The Bachelorette was one of those times, so here I am, in front of my computer screen, wanting to share it all with you. And, if you've been keeping up with this season, I'd love to hear your thoughts on it too!

After the show was over, I honestly could not get it out of my head. I knew I was going to find watching this season a little strange because of the contestant Eric Hill, who died in a paragliding accident only a few weeks after being eliminated, but I had no idea how incredibly sad I was going to find it. I'm not sure if it was because of his larger than life personality, his exiting monologue where he talked about how we was ready now more than ever to find someone, yet we all knew his life at that point was soon ending, or even his tribute that didn't seem to be quite enough. It was all sad.

The part that hit me the hardest, though, was the heated last words spoken between him and Andi. Now I know a ton of editing takes place so, as viewers, what we see isn't always the full story, but I'm fairly confident in saying, that in this circumstance, if Eric and Andi had a better interaction after that argument, I'm sure ABC would have aired it. Do I think Andi overreacted over his 'poker face' comments? Absolutely, I don't think he intentionally meant to hurt her, and in all honesty, I kind of agreed with some of the things he said. But I also think that if Eric was just like any other regular contestant on the show, that last scene would definitely not have had so much controversy surrounding it as what it has had. But, unfortunately, Eric wasn't just like any other contestant and now that last scene is how Andi will remember (not to mention the millions of viewers) her very last discussion with him. Definitely not what I would want.

And so through a show that's labelled under trashy reality tv, I'm reminded of the little phrase that I was taught from a very early age by my mom; never go to bed angry with someone. As silly as it sounds, it holds a pretty powerful underlying message because you honestly never know what your last words with someone will be. I know, some battles are bigger than others, and some things aren't as easy to let go of, but when you come from a family of worriers and over thinkers like myself, I can guarantee you that leaving things unpleasant with someone you care about will probably eat you alive. While Andi's and Eric's "relationship" was short, I'm sure it's not easy for her to look back on now, as she said in her interview, "I feel like if I had that conversation with him [at The Men Tell All] he'd probably say something, I'd probably laugh and it would be water under the bridge. We don't get to have that conversation and that's a tough pill to swallow".

What were your thoughts on the latest episode?
Are you hoping to see how Andi and the remaining guys were told of Eric's death in the upcoming episodes? 

If you love hearing more thoughts about the Bachelorette (guilty as charged!), read what Chris Harrison and Jillian Harris (love her, and her blog) had to say, as well as a post from Eric's sister herself.

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  1. This is such a well-written post, and I whole-heartedly agree. I think Andi definitely overreacted about what he said. I agree with what he said, she does the pouty thing and acts fake a lot in my opinion, and the way their relationship ended was just heartbreaking. I need to remember that quote about not going to bed angry way more often.

  2. I haven't watched The Bachelorette for years...probably since the Jillian Harris season. But from everything I heard, it seems like the show has done a really good job in honoring Kyle's memory, which is shocking because I imagine most that have been on that show probably don't think they've been positively protracted.

    I really do live by the notion of never going to bed angry. I can be super mad about something and five minutes later I'll barely remember what upset me in the first place.

    <3 Jackie

  3. Personally, I think Andi took the conversation the wrong way. I think Eric meant he wanted to get to know her for her not for her as the bachelorette. And Andi took it as a bad thing. I will agree that the whole conversation blew out of proportions. It would be so hard to be in Andi's shoes right now to deal with Eric being gone forever with how their "relationship" ended. I do agree that it's drama TV but it still hits home at times.

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  5. I haven't been watching. Juan Pablo ruined the whole franchise for me. :(

  6. I've only seen the first episode so far, and Eric was my favorite right away! I don't know if I was biased because I knew he died after filming, but he seemed really likeable. I really need to catch up! And I seriously love your take on this. So, so true.

  7. The Bachelor/Bachelorette is watched shamelessly in our house season after season. But I completely agree it was so sad to watch their last conversation knowing that they had no idea it would be the last time they spoke. Definitely made me think about my words and not letting the moment make me say things I could possibly regret in the future.